Modern life is busy, and for most parents, juggling work, kids, mealtimes, and school admin can feel like a never-ending cycle. With so much going on, it’s common to feel guilty about not having enough ‘quality time’ with your child during the day. And for little ones who have been in nursery or school all day, bedtime might be the one moment they know they’ll get your full attention – which is why they often try to stretch it out!
Why quality time matters
Interestingly, it’s not about spending more time – it’s about making that time count. Just 15 – 20 minutes of focused, one-on-one play outside of the bedtime routine can go a long way in meeting your child’s need for connection. This type of play, ideally earlier in the evening (before or after dinner, or during a quieter weekend moment), helps meet their emotional needs before they’re overtired and more likely to resist bedtime.
What should this look like? Activities like watching TV together don’t always cut it. The most effective connection time is interactive and child-led – something where your child feels in control and fully engaged with you. It could be dressing up, racing cars, building towers, cooking, playing tag, or simply making up silly games together. The specific activity doesn’t matter as much as the quality of your engagement.
This kind of intentional one-on-one time can have a huge positive impact on your child’s ability to settle at night. That’s why we always include it in the sleep plans we create for families – because it really does make a difference.
And if sleep is still a struggle, no matter what you try, we’re here for you. Please feel free to get in touch – we’re here to help.
